I tried that with my own children the reaction from my eldest daughter was worse than leaving it on, it was as if I had imposed corporal punishment. Missing home and away then Neighbours. When everybody in school watched it except my kids !
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Depends if my legs and feet can hold me up. I work nights as a carer support worker. twelve and a half hour shifts. Used to be when I first started seventeen and a half hour shift. From half two in the afternoon, right round until half seven the following morning. To say it nearly killed me off is an understatement.
Lone worker, wakeful nights are very tiring, as it isn’t just looking after people, it is laundry, cleaning, fixing things that either day staff had broken or things that the residents had broken, pedal bin lids, Tumble driers, glasses mostly the handles, washing machines, which need the lint trap emptying, cleaning the fluff out of the Tumble Drier heat sink, will they ever better the design? Fixing blinds that are up at windows, that heavy handed day staff had managed to break the pully off of. Like a caretaker at a school, luckily no graffiti, but longer hours.
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Same here. I love peace and quiet. Children should be seen not heard, such a quiet lad left to my own devices, mostly sat in a corner of a room playing quietly with my car sets, doing character voices in my head. Speak when you’re spoken to was drummed into me. Yes I had a strict up bringing, but it taught me to respect not just my elders, but everything and everyone. I remember getting told off by a policeman for laughing in the street. You don’t see that these days.
I also got told off for riding my bike on the pavement, now it is the norm for people and youngsters to make you jump, as they go hurtling by you, making you jump. I have not seen any of these modern bicycles with a bell attached. Used to ring my bell, or move in so people could go by, as I was seven years old, with one brake on my bike, mostly my feet.
I was always polite to people and word would get back to my parents, on how polite my brother and I are. When you have things drummed into you from a young age, it’s with you for life. Please and thank you goes along way, plus they are free.
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I feel for you, no one should be expected to work such long hours, i imagine the break period you get is also moved depending on demand. I class your type of work along with nursing care its physical and demands so much of your core.
Some professions should be exempt from the raising of the age for retirement.
I will never stand for election or for a political group, but if I did then on my election campagne I would go for double the salary for nursing (care Workers included) fire personnel, ambulance, police and retirement at 55. With full pensions. We need people like yourself
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I got into care work because of the way I was treated in hospital was absolutely atrocious. Caught an infection two weeks after surgery. Spent three days in hospital to drain infection. Doctor told me, that they need to drain infection. If you feel anything dripping down your legs, don’t worry the cleaners will clean it up later. When I walked over to the toilet, with a drip stuck in my arm, could feel the infection contents going down my leg.
Did not see any cleaners the whole time I was there. There was a trolly with clean flannels and towels, that was in the middle of the ward the whole three days I was there.
A terrible experience, as ended up having district nurses visiting me at home, cleaning my wound, then compacting it with netting to soak up the nasty yellow puss. After three months of having district nurses coming round and then getting the all clear. I applied for a job with a care agency, had training, finished NVQ 2 passed with flying colours. Went out into the community, met a lot of wonderful people a lot of them died and they say don’t get too attached to your clients, keep it professional, but when you build a working relationship and build a bond with someone, they become more than just a client, that you finish your shift with, they become your friend, especially when your job includes playing scrabble, drinking lots of coffee, eating as many biscuits as you’d like, chat about everything, your life, their life, tell each other stupid jokes and laugh till your both crying. The amount of heartache I endured through out my time in the community, with clients passing away and my time supporting not just for the client, but their family too.
During my time working in the community, went to eight different funerals of my clients, their health just declined so rapidly, year after year. I am blessed to of known such great people I moved from community based care to Residential home care and I met some wonderful people there too. Now I’m working nights and I love it, looking after two clients, both with learning disabilities.
I worked Monday to Monday through out the pandemic and I did not have a proper contract with the agency I work for, so lost all my leave that I had collected.
I work a two week rota now, three nights on Week one two nights on week two, with six off. I especially asked for my rota to be changed, as doing three nights every week began to take it’s toll on my health, let alone trying to get back to some sort of normality after pandemic. Getting married next year, so have that to look forward to, it’s our twenty year anniversary next January and we vowed that if we make it to twenty years, we will get married on our twentieth anniversary. We have no children, as never wanted them and as far as I know, no one has come forward from past relationships to say
“Oi you owe me child maintenance.”
Or some whipper snapper saying that I am their father.
My answer will be you pay for DNA test.
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Wishing you both all the very best for your happy day. 20 years together is worth celebrating and what a wonderful way to do that.
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Wife and I was at a hotel and went down for breakfast. We were sitting there talking. One of the employee said it was refreshing to see people not on their cell phones and actually talking to each other.
Back when my daughter was dating her future husband we were driving in the car. My wife and I in the front and them in the back seat of the car. And instead of conversation, the 2 of them were mostly on their phones.
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That should be used for something completely different !
In my case carrying our folding bikes.
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My dad would say, “It does not cost anything to be polite.”
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To me, each new generation is hanging out less in real life—like participating in social type clubs (ex. bowling etc), group hangouts, or just random social activities—and spending way more time staring at screens instead. That means people aren’t getting as much practice at the basics: reading the room, compromising, making friends, or just getting along with different kinds of people. A lot of the social apps- are built to cause emotionally charge moods. Joy/anger (dopamine/cortisol hits) , but no real coping skills or social benefits. -
As far as time going by more quickly- possibly- less thoughts per seconds makes time speed up. (my brain is old and slowing down 
) Opposite when adrenaline hits- everything slows down- more thoughts per seconds.
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There have always been people who were shy or introverted or socially inept.
What these phones seem to do is drag everyone in that direction by trapping all their outgoing activity online.
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The UK is discussing the lead set by Australia to ban social media under a set âge. Will be interesting in a few years to see if it makes a difference and if it has been replaced by something else.
With government cuts in spending, librairies, youth clubs, sports halls and pools have been reduced or closed to be replaced by pay for activities commercial, where do young people go ?
Thats not a political statement against any party but just a general comment !
Have numbers changed for organisations such as brownies, guides, cubs, scouts and for the better or worse ?
Yes I know there are other organisations better or worse just an example of all round skills.
I have seen first hand, when we went for the last time to the cinema before the pandemic. Kids or people in general texting each other, whilst sat next to each other. The please switch off Mobile media announcement came up on screen, as soon as the film started there was an ocean of blue lights around us. My missus and I left our phones at home, we ain’t into being on them 24/7 or sleeping with them like a lot of people do, with their phones under their pillows.
The thing is, they must wonder why they don’t get enough sleep, with all that radiation emanating off their phone, through their pillow, then straight into their lug hole. If I had my way I would make it mandatory for mobile media phones to be destroyed through out the world. Go back to landline phones, as here in the UK when you get Broadband, you have to have a landline phone. Save Internet usage until you get home. I never understood the need for people to be constantly looking at a screen, especially whilst crossing a road. If the Laws of the world changed to banning and destroying every Mobile Media device phone in the world, we would all benefit with extra privacy.
Fed up with seeing people filming or taking photos on their phones. Don’t get me started with selfies, pouting their lips even more after having them filled up with concrete, to look like a fish. Most of them look like you could use them to open a really high window, or a plunger to unblock your toilet. The world has gone flipping crazy on pout trouts.
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They are almost extinct here.
Our Church still has youth groups… they are quite active.
A huge consumer of our youth’s time is sport. That is not new.
I think .au supports its youth quite strongly … there is enormous funding for childcare and education. And there is the recent social media ban you mentioned.
There is much less support for aged care … it is like we do not value our elderly people as much as our youth.
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Every generation thinks the same thing. … except the pace of change was not always as rapid as it is today.
Part of becoming old is seeing the world that you grew up in change beyond recognition.
I grew up with horses and carts. I have seen that disappear, and my family’s blacksmithing profession disappear with it.
In my research career I specialised in Wool research… it has all but disappeared along with most of our wool industry.. I had to find other things.
I agree excessive phone use is irritating.
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That is always a problem, occasionally I wonder what would happen if I could not care for myself and needed to go into a care home (old people) especially now as I am in france mainly around the language understanding and communications.
Interesting our mayor of leucate is active in création of help, last year a new centre médical, incentives for medical personal relocating to that centre, now his project is day centre for older people and new médiatique replacement for the old library which is inaccessible for many. He is working with public transport to create a interchange to link the bus services with train. Not to mention the cycle paths. Ok its re election year but these projects have been in the pipeline and will happen. Not just political talk. I dont have a right to vote after brexit but if I could he would get my vote.
You must have voting rights somewhere? In England?
Up to 2 years back no, normally after 10 years you loose the vote but that changed and now only in national elections uk.
With brexit it lost the voting rights in france for local, national and European. Also lost the right to stand for the council local although been asked. I pay the rates here but dont get the invités to events or the old people meal. But my wife does.
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Yes, quite true. I can remember my mother-in-law saying when she was in her 70’s that she thought her generation had the best times because of all the changes she saw and that was 35 years ago. Now my wife is saying the same thing and she is in her 70’s.
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I think a large factor in how fast time seems to go is how little changes. When you think back on when something happened you tend to think about where you were living, what was the car you were driving, where you were working, how old the kids were, etc.
When the kids are grown, you’ve lived in the same house for 30 years, worked the same job for 18 years, and driven the same car for 12 years, nothing much has changed. It’s harder to gauge the passage of time.
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